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But if you don’t respond I think you’ve been kidnapped and held for ransom by rebels who are organizing a coup of their corrupt government. Just respond and I won’t have an existential crisis. Simple.

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why would i want to interrupt that blockbuster imagination? 🍿

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Naw…just start sharing with each other your daily WORDLE score—then, when THAT doesn’t come, call 911!!!

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Love this! Love every part of this.😅😅

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are you the “i saw your text” friend? 🌚

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Okay, yes. But LOVE your name!!! I hope it’s real!

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The “How are you” question, no matter when, where, or by whom they are said, is one of my biggest pet peeves. It’s a lazy-person’s ice breaker because we don’t have the imagination to come up with something more interesting. “Look, I don’t really care about how you are. Just say fine so we can get on with our daily life.”

I’ve challenged the peeps in my life (wrote about this in a post actually—don’t know why I said that cuz I’m not pushing and I’m never impressed when a writer pushes their own work to an extreme—but I digress!) to break ice in different ways. One of my fav’s is “WHY are you?”

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damn! that “why are you” hits every time.

it really triggers a long pause to watch my life in a quick flash. And that’s scary to unpack.

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And see when I reach out asking my friends how are you, I genuinely want to know. Voice notes have become my favorite way to text.

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voice notes always make digital connection even way better. Too many translation is lost in text.

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“I’ve read it aloud, read it in the kitchen, read it while cooking, played it through my speaker as I took a shower” - this part made me physically LOLLLL

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Love this so much! 🤣🤭💜

Thank you.

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Because are you really asking how i am or just asking how i am 🤷🏽‍♂️

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the latter. 🫣

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Chewing jeans....hehe. This resonates a lot...too much, maybe! 🥴

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what would you rather have it as than “jeans” ? 😂😂

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I think you just explained a huge question I’ve had in my head for a long time. I don’t think I realized why I didn’t respond to certain texts until now. I also don’t respond to texts that are really complimentary either, probably for the same reason. I could just freaking say thank you but I feel like I need to say more and make it meaningful and I just…. well, I can’t rn!!!

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you’re definitely not alone.

I just feel sometimes when we receive a lot of these generic comments, it's very easy to just ignore because it feels like it's not sincere enough to connect with, if that makes sense?

i find myself just weirded out by those “how are you” type of comments.

But for you though, what kind of complimentary generic messages do you usually get?

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My text replies range from instant to 3 months

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3 months for those you hate and instant for those you care about ? 💀

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you see! so, it's probably you not wanting baseless conversations. If you had someone whos convos you always looked forward to, your reaction would be different.

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Lynelle, To be honest, I probably would think that it also could be the person you're interacting with because for me what I found is that the conversation maybe might not be valuable or meaningful enough for you to want to invest in emotionally because that's where I find myself recently.

Not wanting to invest in conversations that aren't meaningful or deep enough and are just silly side conversations, if that makes sense. So could that be the case?

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