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Ashleigh Vaughn's avatar

Was the card game "we're not really strangers?" the red box? I love that game, it's my favorite. I make everyone play with me and it has the same affect each time, walking away knowing each other a little deeper.

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Shef Tobi ๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿฝโ€๐Ÿณ's avatar

no it carried the name of my city. But i really want to get that โ€œweโ€™re not really strangersโ€ cards game soon. I remember @Temi Coker sharing about it recently too.

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Shef Tobi ๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿฝโ€๐Ÿณ's avatar

rather it has the name โ€œwater lantern festivalโ€ inscribed on it.

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Oluwatobiloba's avatar

Yay! These are beautiful photos.

I remember your notes about attending this event. Thank you for sharing it with us.

I love card games that open up conversations, itโ€™s the best way to learn about someone. Congrats on your new home.

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Shef Tobi ๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿฝโ€๐Ÿณ's avatar

thanks namesake. I never knew the power behind those card games mehn!

itโ€™s such a treat! something iโ€™ve integrated into my life moving forward.

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Oluwatobiloba's avatar

You should get Cards against Humanity too. It's not a conversation game per se, but it's hilarious.

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Shef Tobi ๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿฝโ€๐Ÿณ's avatar

iโ€™ve heard about it. TOBI, you always have the best suggestions. Have you lived more than 1 lifetime?

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Oluwatobiloba's avatar

๐Ÿ˜… Tobi, youโ€™re welcome!

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Nadia Meli's avatar

This is so beautiful โค๏ธ thank you for sharing so vulnerably with us. Letting go sometimes can save your life. It's a necessary practice.

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Shef Tobi ๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿฝโ€๐Ÿณ's avatar

iโ€™m in the phase of letting go a particular friendship that isnโ€™t serving me no more. It hurts like crazy but itโ€™s something iโ€™ll like to write about when the time is right.

and once iโ€™ve fully let go.

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Kert Lenseigne ๐ŸŒฑ's avatar

This was beautiful and I agree with Victoriaโ€ฆthe pictures are quite wonderful. That takes a bit of courage to include pictures of yourself amidst such vulnerable reflections. But they add so much to your story. Thank you!

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Shef Tobi ๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿฝโ€๐Ÿณ's avatar

thanks so much, Kert. This means a lot.

the piece without the images would not do justice with the emotions i experienced that day.

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Tyler's avatar

This was really heartfelt. I enjoyed reading as much as I enjoyed the visuals. Letting go is truly the hardest part of life and I just have to say, youโ€™re doing great, Tobi. Iโ€™m proud of you.

Keep going โค๏ธ

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Shef Tobi ๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿฝโ€๐Ÿณ's avatar

stop!! that was just so cute of you to say โ€œiโ€™m

proud of youโ€

thank you, fam. ๐Ÿซ‚๐Ÿซ‚๐Ÿซ‚๐Ÿซ‚

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Jamal Robinson's avatar

Love it bro! Letting go seems like itโ€™d be easier than holding on but itโ€™s not.

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Shef Tobi ๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿฝโ€๐Ÿณ's avatar

couldnโ€™t agree more. Thanks for reading bro. ๐Ÿซถ๐Ÿฝ

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Chinenye Akunna's avatar

Thank you for sharing, Tobi.

I'm also learning that letting go is more brave than it seems cowardly. So thank you for this reinforcing this. โœจ

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Shef Tobi ๐Ÿ‘จ๐Ÿฝโ€๐Ÿณ's avatar

no, i should thank you for reading and re-affirming that sometimes letting go is a brave act. The fact that i let go off this article as it has been sitting in my draft because i was scared.

but your words is a sure sign that it was worth it.

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May Morris-Kawel's avatar

This was quite a read. Thanks for sharing such beautiful moment. I really do love where you are at Tobi! keep going. Now, completly unrelated- but I really thought that your drawing of two people hugging, was you attempting to draw a tree!! ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ Thanks for explaining

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Martha Essien's avatar

feels ๐Ÿ˜ฎโ€๐Ÿ’จ ๐Ÿ˜ฎโ€๐Ÿ’จ

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