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This was such a cool post and concept. I am vibing with these question prompts!

2) I would probably have to go with smashing a champagne 🍾 bottle against my home office wall. I was in a fiery rage home alone reflecting on the shambles of a life situation.

I am often perceived as the bubbly 🫧 happy go lucky 🍀 everything just goes right for her kind types. I think some mistake my kindness and my desire to lead with love as a sign of weakness and I think many would be surprised to see the poised, put together Baddie smashing bottles on the walls of her pretty picture perfect lake house.

Just like everyone else I have a shadow side.

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omg!! BB, did you just lowkey generate another reflective piece that feels like a segue into an essay?

because I'm craving to find out more on this. I love how it ends with the retreat to honesty: "Just like everyone else I have a shadow side."

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Tobi real talk I was thinking that!!! I am like here we go again - Tobi asking these great questions getting me to talk and I got another essay. Just cuz you said it ima turn this into an essay. I think 🤔 it’s time that I dive into my shadow side a little more.

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i’m dying with curiosity what that shadow self is about

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can we see that shadow self, BB? 🥹🥹

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It’s coming. I have to finish out my vacation and I’ll drop it. I pinky swear.

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“or the woman who sang at the top of her lungs while cleaning, using her mop as a microphone stand.”

okay okay, wall Tobi 😂

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tell me Martha hasn’t done anything like that? 💀

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I think our walls would reveal a lot of noise, laughter and bickering from two small children. At other times, it would reveal me talking to myself about the day ahead of me and pattering around, cussing under my breath trying to find something that ends up being right in front of me.

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i'd love to hear the bickering. That would be hilarious.

I hate when that shit happens to me. Looking for my freaking airpods the whole time when it's right in my palms. smh.

what was the most recent thing you lost and found right in front of you ? 😁

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I love that you include the inspiration for your prompts and it’s cool to see how you interpret them. Man if my walls started spilling my secrets I’d knock them down before they could get a word out because I have some things indeed 🤭

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“because I have some things indeed” is having me rolling 🤣

some of which you spill with your stack paid crew yeah? 🫢

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Lol yesss, I spill so much of my tea

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😂

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This is brilliant. It’s true, our homes meet the fullest versions of ourselves. Guard down, personality up. I think my walls grow jealous of me looking out the window lol

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they probably grown tired of keeping all your secrets and want a view of the outside drama for a change 😄

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I need the walls to silence themselves of all the cussing, crying and complaining I've done aloud and privately.

But please replay every single funny moment of big family dinners where we sat around the table and laughed until our sides hurt. 🤎

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mehn! i crave for that type of family dinner, Alex.

we’re planning one over here this december and i feel like the Mirabel in the family. The one who tries to keep everyone in sync and get everyone going.

got any ideas on stuff we could do that would be mad fun?

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Oh its not always like this. We compliment how good the food is and talk shit at the same time. Love + hate at nearly every family dinner. When everyone comes to my house, its considered neutral territory and we set a positive vibe. Say what you gotta say peacefully and leave that extra bullshit at the door.

We don't get together a lot so for several years we've only been together for Thanksgiving and Christmas. We've done paint parties, ornament decorating and secret Santas. For the people that like to play cards they'll do that. For my non-alcoholic drinkers, I pretend to be a bartender and serve them mocktails. Each year a different household hosts Christmas Eve dinner, Christmas breakfast and dinner. We keep it simple most of the time.

Hopefully these suggestions will help you for any dinner occasion.🤎

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the paint parties how’s that setup like?

i think i’ll love to include that one

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thanks for sharing, AB.

i’ll keep them in mind. The next one i’ll defo host at my place especially now that i have a good space to host people.

actually been looking forward to hosting people over night at my place. Can’t wait to do it. It’s defo going to be high up on my list for next year. This year was “get into therapy” year and i did.

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i love cards . But the cards with reflective questions to spill all the dark tea. 💀💀💀

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it’s the “pretend to be a bartender” for me 🤣🤣

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This was absolutely amazing post bro! 🥹👏🏽

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If the walls start talking, we would be in some serious soup. The walls in my home have seen me do some really mischievous mischief. 🫠

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like what? 💀

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Because, tell me why I’ll hear my mama call my name and I’ll not answer, and just as she’s about to open my room door, I pretend to be asleep. 🙂‍↔️😭

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this is absolutely me!!!!!!!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

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“or the guy who cried when he saw his ex just got engaged while singing to Bruno Mars’ “When I Was Your Man”.- this part cracked me up.

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who were you thinking about?🤣🤣🤣

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😂😂😂😂 Let me not say anything. 😂😂

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Tobi, this piece really got me thinking about how much we all hide, even from ourselves. If walls really had ears, we’d have to face all the little contradictions, secrets, and unspoken thoughts we keep private. It’s a bit scary but interesting to imagine everyone seeing who we are behind closed doors. 😂

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yoooo! if them walls could talk eh, FA! we would barely have friends or loved ones.

but then again, if them walls could talk? i’ll suspect i’ll have more friends because i want people to know my messy and i want to know theirs, that’s usually where the best of connections emerge.

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what would your walls say, FA?

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Yall don’t want my walls talking

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💀🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

what would talk about the most?

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Probably wondering why I’m singing all the time, why I laugh to myself, why I am such a good cook, and why I’m always naked

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what’s your fav meal to cook?

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Steak and potatoes

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i wasn’t prepared for that ending💀💀🤣🤣🤣

them walls better not speak. 😮‍💨

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see no evil say no evil 🫢

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Through the end in for a lil razzle dazzle.

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Or do they? Maybe it's metaphorical and our conscience are our ears. Maybe some ears have gone deaf. But I don't think there's anyone without a secret. It's humbling perhaps.

If I could silence any wall? I wouldn't silence any. Let all the secrets be spilled anyway.

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i swore i was going to get to your comment KS but i kept forgetting.

this comment is gold! You have really sharp eyes and mind. Your willingness to let the secrets slip though. Where does that courage come from?

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Oh, don't worry. It happens. Thank you for the compliment.

Why I can spill it all? We are all dying anyway. Nothing stays the same.

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💀💀💀

you sound like you’ve done this life twice. 🔥

i’m curious, are you religious?

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Haha. Probably thought too much about it. No, I'm not religious.

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i could have bet you weren't. do you think it's obvious how i made the connection?

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lol, did the question come as a surprise?

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I wasn't expecting though.

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I feel attacked at this point, wetin bring Downloading free copies of Books into this matter now, eh.

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💀

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If there is one thing my walls will reveal, it will definitely be me daydreaming about marrying some black American actress.

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hahahhahaha this one made me laugh fr. Who would that actress be?

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That's the problem, it's more than one actress bro 😂🤷🏾‍♂️

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we need names bruhh🫢

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Uhmm... Regina Daniels, basically every actress in the movie - The Best Man 😂😂😂

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*Regina Hall*

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Number 4 I’ll silence the walls of my mind.

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Wini, just yesterday my guy and i were discussing for hours on emotional intelligence especially from the perspective of men. In the middle of the conversation found myself bringing this note: https://substack.com/@winifredliam/note/c-72147303?utm_source=notes-share-action&r=50pcp

that thing has stuck with me like bubble gum under my behind.

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Haha 🫶🏾🫶🏾

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shit! those walls need a different essay of its own. Yo!!! the good, dark and ugly are all there. I can't imagine people wactching the things from the walls of my mind.

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I think if the walls in my room played a tape, people would swear it's AI generated 😂😂

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hahahahahahahaha!! why would it be A.I generated?

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My version of me my walls see is completely different from the version I show the world.

So I imagine people trying to connect the odds and not believing their eyes😂😂😂

An example, people always say I'm reserved and quiet and wellllllllllll.....

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reserved but loud in her room? 💀💀

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